This Baby is Not Yours
This postcard from PostSecret convicted me! Or should I say, it is because I am partly guilty?
My life has been an open book to many who came in and out of (not to mention those who stayed in) my life. In fact, I have retold my story here. But no, I never denied who the father of my child was. What moved me here is the fact that I may be guilty of forbidding her to experience a few special moments with her father.
Am I being selfish? Is there a tinge of guilt within me?
posted by ~ flor ~ at
7:59 PM
5 Comments:
As a friend, I would say yes, you are depriving her of a HUGE thing. Growing up with a Dad present is still different. He need not live with you but she needs to see him on a regular basis lest she grow up looking for a father figure and committing mistakes she need not to.
Nagtaka din ako sa postcard na iyun. Why does she miss the baby - did she abort it or give it up for adoption?
Going back to your question, it's hard to choose between exposing your child to potential hurt and disappointment and giving her the chance to get to know her father. It's also hard to let go of the resentment you feel towards the father and grant him the happiness of having a relationship with his daughter, happiness that he may not deserve because of his past actions. But I think your daughter has more to gain than lose from knowing her father.
I think its because you just don't want Nikki to get hurt the way you did. It's only natural to let your motherly instincts take over.
You said it yourslef -- special moments with her father. Wouldn't you want that for Nikki?
Coming from the same situation as yours, I know it's easier said than done. I'd like to let Riel see his father once in a while but I worry for him when his dad breaks his promises and hurts him.
It is a tough choice. I think you should at least give it a chance, not for him, not for you but for your daughter. If it's not working you have all the reason to put a stop to it but at least you gave it a try.
Post a Comment
Subscribe to Post Comments [Atom]
<< Home